I decided in the early hours of the morning that I would share my story with you so that you can see that I am a woman like you and I’ve been through some of the things that you may be going through.
I used to lack self-love and I will tell you about that so you can get to know me and we can connect with each other even better.
I’ve always been a skinny woman and I’ve never been able to add weight. This used to be a big issue in my life.
When I was growing up people would say to me oh you’re so skinny. I didn’t realise the impact the label was going to have on my confidence.
I didn’t even realise that my mind was storing all of these messages. I had no idea what it was doing to me.
When I became a young adult, my clothes wouldn’t fit and this had a big effect on my confidence.
I became very insecure about what I saw when I looked in the mirror. I would go shopping for clothes, I was a size zero and I desperately wanted to become a size eight.
My story may resonate with you. You might be a small woman and you might be looking to put on weight or you might be have been a big woman all your life and you’ve been trying to lose weight.
Whichever side you’re on the important thing, the part of my story that I want to share is that I just didn’t like what I saw in the mirror. I hated the fact that I was so skinny.
I became very insecure, it was so bad that I started buying children’s clothes just so that my clothes would fit.
If I ever went shopping, I had to alter the clothes to make it smaller around the waist.
I didn’t think any man would love me for who I was especially as I was so skinny.
When I started dating and I realised that I was dating all the wrong people, I was in all the wrong relationships I was chasing love, love was not chasing me.
It came to a head for me at the age of 26 years old; at the time I was still very skinny and I was dating this man, I was constantly doing things for him, I would give him my money, I would give him my love, I would give him my body.
I gave him everything and I didn’t really get anything back in return and I felt isolated.
In the three years that we dated he was dating someone else, he was with another woman and I didn’t even know about it.
I thought I was the love of his life. I thought I was going to get married to him and we were gonna have kids together and that did not happen. I’m sharing this story so that you can see that I wasn’t born confident, I have learned to be confident over the years and you can learn to be confident as well by loving yourself.
Back to my story, after three years or so we got into an argument one day and then he slapped me and I thought this isn’t right.
Though he apologised and we got back together and continued the relationship, something did not sit very well. Then one day I realised…. you know what I can be more than this, I can be better than this.
So I started working on my mindset I started working on myself
Shortly afterwards, I called off the relationship and I told him I didn’t want to be in the relationship anymore and that the relationship doesn’t have to define me.
I was able to say no to somebody who did not love me for who I was.
Looking in the mirror, I was telling myself, Andrea you’re a beautiful woman. I accepted the fact that I may never put on weight and even now I have only put on a little bit of weight in 20 years and I’ve accepted that.
Noticing what the triggers were for me to slip into a negative mindset, the negative self-talk that had become my habit, things like “I’m going to fail”, “I’m too skinny” or “nobody will want me”.
I thought that nobody would love me for who I am, so I changed that around and I started saying positive things about myself I started loving myself and I started doing things for myself.
I put the spotlight on me
Then as if by magic! In the city where I live there were shops that opened catering for Size Zero women. Finally, I was able to get clothes that fitted perfectly, this gave my confidence a little boost. But the real confidence boost came from the inside. It came from accepting myself for who I was, it came from accepting my skinny self and accepting the fact that I may never put on weight.
And guess what? I found someone who loved me! Who loved me for who I am.
He was chasing me! He wanted children with me!
We’re happy, I love him, he loves me.
He loves me more than I love him if I dare to say that and we have a beautiful relationship.
So why am I sharing the story with you?
I’m sharing the story with you so that you know that there may be things that you can’t accept about yourself. There may be things that are having a negative effect on your confidence and they are stopping you from expressing yourself freely.
This is what I’m here to do, I’m here to help you.
My purpose in life is to encourage you, it is to help you to boost your confidence.
To help you to so that you can be happy so that you can flourish.
I’m a woman, like you and I’ve been through a few things and my confidence has had a knock over the years.
I have been able to boost my confidence by loving myself, I am a much happier person and I am:
- Flourishing in my relationships
- Flourishing in my marriage
- Flourishing in my business
- Flourishing in my career
I want to help you to do that, I wanted to help you to do the same thing.
You can be happy too you if you:
- Love yourself more
- Pay attention to yourself more
- See yourself in a positive light
- Let go of limiting beliefs
- Be able to look after yourself
- Own your own self
- See yourself in a positive light
Do this and your confidence will go to a whole new level. You will become a happier person and your relationships will flourish
I hope I’ve been able to inspire you. I hope I’ve been able to encourage you to pay attention and to have compassion for yourself.
Book yourself in for a free discovery session with me. We can get to know each other and see how I can help you flourish.